A little about us . . .

Mimsy Borogoves

I’m a heterosexual submissive cis woman who followed a long and circuitous path to BDSM. Although I had an inkling I was kinky in my early 20s, I didn’t have the vocabulary to describe it or the wherewithal to truly explore those feelings until much later, after being in a series of vanilla relationships, including a marriage. In my late 30s, I realized that something was missing and began seeking kinky encounters. I quickly decided there was no going back.

Vagabond

I’m a heterosexual cis man. As a kid, I fantasized about bound women, and electrocuted myself with medical equipment, but I didn’t understand I was kinky until the end of my marriage. My first Internet date was at age 35 and landed me at a surreal BDSM yacht party. After years of “research and development” of BDSM and relationship styles, I discovered that I’m dominant, monogamous, and just a little bit of a masochist.

Our Relationship

We met on a vanilla dating app in 2016. Vagabond had “kinky” in his profile, which caught Mimsy’s eye. We had amazing chemistry from the start and it didn’t take us long to realize we wanted to be together for the long haul. We live together in New York City and have Vagabond’s two children with us half the time. We both have full-time jobs that often require us to work overtime, so we’re active in the kink scene, but only as much as our schedules allow. We have a D/s dynamic in the bedroom, and our play often involves rope bondage, impact, degradation, knife play, and CNC. Our relationship with each other and with BDSM is constantly evolving. This blog is a part of that evolution.

Originally published at bound-together.net.